Title: It Just Hasn’t Happened Yet
Author: Karin Anderson, Ph. D.
Publisher: Cliffton Hills Press
Dozens, if not hundreds, of books out there will tell you how to catch a man. They’ll tell you what games to play, how to act, how to talk, how to decipher some mysterious set of “guy rules,” how to dress, when to call, when not to call. Basically, how NOT to be yourself but rather some fake version of what guys want, based on a small sampling of what is supposed to be the “average guy.”
In the midst of all that nonsense (although probably in the same section of the book store), is a book that basically spits in the face of all those supposed self-help relationshion books and says “you’re fine how you are, it just hasn’t happened yet.”
Karin Anderson’s boo, appropriately titled It Just Hasn’t Happened Yet debunks all the myths and age-old cliches about why some women haven’t found Mr. Right. Here’s a hint: it’s not because you’re not putting yourself out here enough or because you’re too needy. You’re not too picky, too self-assured (as if that should ever be considered a flaw), too self–debasing (knock that off, you rock!) or too anything else. It’s simply because the right guy hasn’t come along, and you shouldn’t settle for the alright guy.
It Just Hasn’t Happened Yet is divided into two major sections. In the first part, she talks about he many different inappropriate things that well-meaning friends and family say to single women, and then she tears those cliches apart. She gives the psychology behind the statements, offers up a letter from a friend that either supports, or more often than not, argues with the stance, and then provides her rebuttal. Chapters also contain a guy’s point of view and a real-life conversation to illustrate her point. The second part of It Just Hasn’t Happened Yet follows the same format, but discusses the things single women do to themselves, like serial online dating or getting back together with their exes (they’re exes for a reason, after all).
The chapters are quick and easy, but the wisdom is deep and useful. I recommend this to any single woman who is tired of hearing that they need to become someone else in order to snag a man. Think about it, if you have to play games and be fake to get him, you’ll have to keep it up your whole life to keep him. That doesn’t sound conducive to a good relationship, now does it?