It’s been a running joke for years that Millennials have killed off some of the major things society loves. Unfortunately, their reign of terror continues as more and more Millennials opt for the single life, thereby killing relationships in the process.
While not all relationships have been buried, it is true that more and more singles are choosing to stay that way on purpose. This was revealed by a new Tinder survey who polled over 1,000 single people between the ages of 18 through 35, otherwise known as young Millennials.
The study showed that more and more young singles “have made the conscious decision to stay single for a period of time.”
But the choice for single Millennials to remain untethered isn’t for a lack of options; in fact, 81% of those surveyed recognize the benefits of being single. Many claim this allows the individual more time to focus on friendships, their career, and their lives as an individual.
The survey also reported that many young women feel empowered by the decision to remain single.
At the same time, however, many older Millennials have worked to kill divorce in the United States. While 2.4 million weddings are held every year, more of these couples are choosing to stay together, especially when they marry later in life.
Professor Philip Cohen of the University of Maryland attributes this to differing levels of maturity.
“Millennials often get married at an older age, and therefore wait to wed once they’re more highly educated and have more stable careers,” surmises USA Today in an interview with Cohen.
So, how are Millennials supposed to find love when they do want to try their hand in the dating world?
The easiest and most popular way to meet fellow singles is through dating apps and sites, like eHarmony or Tinder.
Unfortunately, mastering the art of online dating can be a chore in itself. Between inappropriate pictures, stalemate conversations, and bot accounts, the ease of swiping feels like moving a mountain. Twitter alone has managed to remove over 70 million bots on their site since May.
Luckily, there are some easy tips for finding the right person online. Here are some ways to kill dating apps, next.
Pick the right app. Are you interested in a hookup or something long term? Does religion mean a lot to you in a partner? For hookups, try Tinder. Long-term matches can be hard to find, but apps like Bumble and Hinge typically have a reputation for serious matches, not just casual dating. If you’re religious, opting for something like Christian Mingle may be more your speed. LGBTQ+? Many people find a mix of long-term and short-term matches can be found on apps like Grindr, OkCupid, and Her.
Be yourself. In every way you can. Utilize images and photos that show you doing the things you love, like rock climbing, traveling, or playing chess. And definitely don’t skimp the details in your bio. Sure, mentioning your height is nice, but you need to give potential matches something to work with when you exchange messages. Otherwise, they’re just calling out listlessly into the dating void.
Write more than “hi.” The first message often sets the tone of the conversation. If you’re messaging first, try to come up with more than just a “hi” or “how are you” message. A confident first message, especially in the form of a statement, performs around 25% better than a simple question like “what are you up to?” You can always comment on one of the photos in their profile or talk about similar interests mentioned in their bio. Hey, it looks like the “be yourself” tab works both ways!
Even if Millennials are killing relationships, that doesn’t mean people are any less happy. Finding the right person takes time and Millennials are finally exploring their independence to the fullest.
Now, if they can only kill something useful, like parking tickets.